Right now, I have 5 children that God has given me to care of and bring up to be Godly men and women of God. I realize that the question is asking if they are fostered, adopted or biological. But the way I see it is that any child who comes through my door and lives with me and my family is... MINE!!!... God has entrusted that child, whether it be my biological child, a foster child or an adopted child. I am just as responsible for the kids who come into my home, as I would be if we had our own biological children.
Being foster parents how do you balance the requirements the foster children have with the needs of your own family?
As I stated before, every child that is in my home I consider to be under my care, whether they are with me for 1 hour or 18 years, I am still there father. So I guess I would answer that question with a thought that every child is unique whether they are your own flesh and blood or not, and each one of them requires your attention at some point or another.
What made adoption your first option?
Since I was little, I always knew that I would, in some way be helping the orphans of the world. I never knew how that would look or for how long I would be doing it for. I can’t tell you the exact point when I decided to adopt. I didn’t go to any great meeting or see some horrific pictures on the TV of starving children who needed a home. It was more a question that kept coming up in my head. And that question is such an amazing one that I now love asking other people. WHY NOT ADOPT?!!!! Like really, why not, what is stopping me and my wife from adopting. When I say that many people are thinking of 1000 reasons why they cannot adopt, but I can almost guarantee you that if that same couple found out that they were pregnant. They would make it work. God is there for each and every one of us, and I don’t believe that He would give someone a child who could not handle it. I realize that it is scary and mysterious, you have no idea what to expect at first and you have never embarked on this path before, but isn't that the exact same way that new expecting parents feel? By adopting a child, you are doing so much more than just taking that child into your life and giving it a home and a family to love them and walk with them through life. You have such an amazing ripple affect that goes beyond anything that you could ever imagine. If you think about the biological parents and all of the brother and sisters of that child, you have an effect on all of them. And the people who know that you are an adoptive family look at you in a different way. You can have such an amazing impact on the world by adopting. Ok, so all that aside, let’s face the reality of the current situation here. There are over 100,000,000 ORPHANS!!!!! In the world today. 100,000,000 that is a huge number. These are children who are never going to have a good night kiss from the same person every night, never have the same loving face to pick them up from school, snuggle them in bed, pray with them, tuck them in to bed, check for monsters in the closet, be excited for them when they get an A on their math exam or the first day of high school, when a girl has her first kiss and a boy finally gets hair on his face. A boy when he finally get his own car and has to learn how to fix it and then take a girl out on his first date. That girl who will have no one to walk her down the aisle and that boy who will have no one to tell him that he is a man. What is it that makes over 100,000,000 kids less deserving of our love, why can’t more people step up to the plate and say I’m willing?! What does it take to break a person’s heart and see that there are children longing for LOVE, AFFECTION, PEACE, EMPATHY, COMPASION, SOME ONE TO CALL MOM AND DAD! So you asked me the question why did I choose to adopt first. I guess the short answer is. Why wouldn’t you choose to adopt?
What are some supports that you have that help you to successfully navigate being adoptive parents?
As I stated before, every child that is in my home I consider to be under my care, whether they are with me for 1 hour or 18 years, I am still there father. So I guess I would answer that question with a thought that every child is unique whether they are your own flesh and blood or not, and each one of them requires your attention at some point or another.
What made adoption your first option?
Since I was little, I always knew that I would, in some way be helping the orphans of the world. I never knew how that would look or for how long I would be doing it for. I can’t tell you the exact point when I decided to adopt. I didn’t go to any great meeting or see some horrific pictures on the TV of starving children who needed a home. It was more a question that kept coming up in my head. And that question is such an amazing one that I now love asking other people. WHY NOT ADOPT?!!!! Like really, why not, what is stopping me and my wife from adopting. When I say that many people are thinking of 1000 reasons why they cannot adopt, but I can almost guarantee you that if that same couple found out that they were pregnant. They would make it work. God is there for each and every one of us, and I don’t believe that He would give someone a child who could not handle it. I realize that it is scary and mysterious, you have no idea what to expect at first and you have never embarked on this path before, but isn't that the exact same way that new expecting parents feel? By adopting a child, you are doing so much more than just taking that child into your life and giving it a home and a family to love them and walk with them through life. You have such an amazing ripple affect that goes beyond anything that you could ever imagine. If you think about the biological parents and all of the brother and sisters of that child, you have an effect on all of them. And the people who know that you are an adoptive family look at you in a different way. You can have such an amazing impact on the world by adopting. Ok, so all that aside, let’s face the reality of the current situation here. There are over 100,000,000 ORPHANS!!!!! In the world today. 100,000,000 that is a huge number. These are children who are never going to have a good night kiss from the same person every night, never have the same loving face to pick them up from school, snuggle them in bed, pray with them, tuck them in to bed, check for monsters in the closet, be excited for them when they get an A on their math exam or the first day of high school, when a girl has her first kiss and a boy finally gets hair on his face. A boy when he finally get his own car and has to learn how to fix it and then take a girl out on his first date. That girl who will have no one to walk her down the aisle and that boy who will have no one to tell him that he is a man. What is it that makes over 100,000,000 kids less deserving of our love, why can’t more people step up to the plate and say I’m willing?! What does it take to break a person’s heart and see that there are children longing for LOVE, AFFECTION, PEACE, EMPATHY, COMPASION, SOME ONE TO CALL MOM AND DAD! So you asked me the question why did I choose to adopt first. I guess the short answer is. Why wouldn’t you choose to adopt?
What are some supports that you have that help you to successfully navigate being adoptive parents?
Well first, of all God, my wife and I support each other and having friends around us who support us is huge as well.
Would you recommend couples to adopt as a first option and why?
If you read question number 2, you pretty much have my answer. And that is YES! Why wouldn't you adopt first.
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